falling apart: a strategy in self care and activism, via Joanne.
my work being one of witnessing the hard feelings unfold, of creating a space of honest conversation where anyone of any gender can fall apart around me and i will listen, i will love, i will honor your survival and remind you that it is okay to let it out that you cannot hold all that pain inside.
as a masculine person of color i take this role seriously. often this role falls on the backs of women, of femmes and that is playing into patriarchy.
“Are coders encouraged to develop their people skills (communication with colleagues and customers, user empathy, etc.), or are those skills offloaded to other departments? How do you determine the pay grades for the various roles and departments in your company? Do compensation levels reflect any unconscious assumptions about the respective value of different skill sets? How do you value your team’s “empathizers”?”